Argh. Some things get me so angry. The amount of people complaining about their life, their children, their spouse astounds me. “Oh, I really want God to help me through this” or “Why did God do this to me!” People, if you wait on God to do things for you, you may be waiting a VERY long time. YOU need to help yourself, you need to wake up, look around, and realize that life is what you make of it. If you think that it is shitty all the time, YOU made it that way. And guess what??? Only YOU have the ability to change it, not your children, not your friends, and certainty not God. I’m sick of people not taking responsibility over themselves. They like to blame things on others or God. Good and bad. If you got a promotion, it is YOUR doing…your hard work.. If something bad happens, that’s just the way the cookie crumbles, it’s LIVING people. I’ve even heard of people thinking/saying that God or even Satan gives people diseases, cancer or other sickness. How screwed up is that?
If you want to be happy, do things that make you happy and be with people that make you happy. Just freaking DO SOMETHING and stop complaining about how hard/terrible life is. You take your own paths, sometimes those paths are rough but it’s how you make it through it that counts.
I just really want people to wake up and realize that enjoying life isn’t about anybody else but themselves. I know it sounds selfish, but it is the truth. Nobody will ever be you, nobody can ever control you without you letting them. You have absolute control of how you live your life. Health for sure will get in the way, pain will as well. I of all people understand this. But, it is what YOU do to help alleviate this. What are you doing to help yourself? Your life will never get better if you keep blaming everyone or everything for your problems.
Amazingly said! I wish sometimes I could scream that from the rooftops!!! I recently read this poem that I show to all my staff….I think it’s bravely written with such an important message…..I attached it for ya!!! Hope this finds you in good health and glowing as per ususual!!!
Cheers!!
XOXOXOXOXOX
I read of a man who stood to speak at the funeral of a friend. He referred to the dates on her casket from beginning to the end. He noted that first came the date of her birth and spoke of the following date with tears, but he said what mattered most of all was the dash between those years. For that dash represents all the time that she spent alive on earth and now only those who loved her know what that little line is worth.
For it matters not, how much we own, the cars, the house, the cash,
What matters is how we live and love and how we spend our dash.
So think about this long and hard; Are there things you would like to change?
For you never know how much time is left that can still be rearranged.
If we could just slow down enough to consider what is true and real
and always try to understand the way other people feel.
And be less quick to anger and show appreciation more
and love the people in our lives like we have never loved before.
If we treat each other with respect and more often wear a smile,
Remembering that this special dash might only last a little while.
So when your eulogy is being read with your life’s actions to rehash…
Would you be proud of the things they say about how you spent your dash?
I completely agree with what you say Mary, but am also aware of the number of emotionally unhealthy people out there that have a very difficult time getting their life moving in the right direction…people who have been abused, people who have addictions, etc.
We do need to take responsibility for our lives, but of course we also need to be patient with ourselves.
On the subject of God, it has always bugged me when people on Survivor say that they won a challenge or find a hidden immunity idol because God was taking care of them. I have to say that I would think She had better things to concentrate on than Survivor!
Very well stated, Mary. You are so right! We are, to a large degree, architects of our own lives. Yes, we all have road-blocks, some of which are more difficult and/or painful than others. But we all have the ability to push on and create what we know is good and wholesome for our lives.
If we live long enough we can finally turn most of our energies towards our passions and be fulfilled. I spent a great many years in Eldercare as you know. Mom was 92 when she died. But now I am able as fully as my health permits, to throw myself fully into my passion which is Music. As you probably have heard I am composing music as well as playing it on Horn and singng in two choruses.I always have had music “playing” in my mind and even notated the best I could some of this many years ago. But now I have NO interference and, with the help of a brilliant and wonderful composer who I am lucky to call a friend as well as a mentor, I am able really to compose. He puts my music on his laptop via Sibelius, a fantastic musical notation program which I hope to purchase when I can afford it and sends me the pdf and audio files.One composition was performed last Spring; it is something I wrote for a retiring musician friend.Others will be performed later on.
I paid my dues the very hard way but am now rewarded with a life I can call my own. Everyone can do this if we accept what is sometimes killingly difficult in our lives and do what we must but keep our eyes on the prize. Life is hard but it is also very good when we stay positive and live our beliefs as well as possible.
I am so glad that your are such a positive person. Nothing will ever completely keep you down as a result.
Yes, just yes.